how to avoid stress

Childhood can be a time of extreme emotional stress. In their first 18 years of life children are often exposed to many stressful situations – going to school, making friends, rejection, dating, puberty, trying to adjust to impending adulthood. But, you can help your child of any age to avoid stress.

Stress can be recognized by:-
* Frequently tired
* Moody for no reason
* Unable to concentrate
* Unable to sleep
* Fearful, but doesn’t know why
* Hungry all the time
* Not hungry at all
* Less enthusiastic than normal

Stress at home:-
In most cases,It is often seen that children are getting stress from their home:-

Are you divorced?
Do you and the child’s father get along?
Or do you fight in front of him or her?
Are you abusing alcohol or drugs?


Counseling:-
Sometimes the only way to avoid stress is to seek counselling. Some children have deep seeded fears, which they may not talk to you about and nothing you do or say will help relieve these fears. In cases such as this, try to get them into counselling. It may take a while and you may need to visit several counsellors before they find one they feel comfortable enough with to open up and tell them what is really bothering them. The counsellor will be able to find the root of the problem and then teach the child techniques to deal with it, thus avoiding stressing situations in the future.
But the best counseling starts at home.
You should spend your time with your children
You should talk to them about how they spent their day.
What are the problems they are facing in their schools or with friends,etc

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SURVEY On PARENTAL PRESSURE

Recent surveys shows that
In America:-
By a ratio of four-to-one, adults in this country say that American parents are placing too little (56%) rather than too much (15%) pressure on students, with the remaining quarter (24%) saying that parents are exerting the right amount of pressure.

In Asia:-
In japan,Parents are putting so much pressure on children because children are sent to
school
where they spend many hours beyond the regular school day supplementing their studies and preparing for college entrance exams.
Japanese (59%) say all this pressure is too much, while 30% feel the demands are about right. Only 9% say students need more parental pressure -- a figure that stands in stark contrast to the 56% of Americans who feel this way about students here.

Pressure on children:-

India-----61%
US--------15%
China-----63%
Japan-----59%


STOP Parental Pressure:-
STOP asian parental pressure forcing kids to excel, it results in suicide
From a survey taken in 2005, a whopping 50% of Cornell University's suicide victims were asian:
Asian kids are constantly expected to academically excel by their parents. Their parents constantly pressure them, and want them to persue careers in medicine, technology, science, or law, because they think anything else wont pay good enough. they always force you to study.

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Parental Pressure

In Today's world,One of the biggest reason behind child stress and depression is Parental Pressure.So I am writing this Blog to tell you all something about Parental pressure

INTRODUCTION TO THE PROBLEM

One of the biggest hazards of the modernization is that people are running for materialistic world. The glitter of this materialistic world is so big that people are chasing it blindly without knowing what they are gaining and losing. People are working day and night not only to run their families but for the things which were once beyond their reach.. Some are running for cars, big houses, accumulating huge wealth.Values are dying slowly not only they are affecting the health but on the same time they find themselves desperated at the end if the day.

In olden times, there was a concept of joint families where the grandparents used to look after the children when parents went out for work and the entire used to spend time together which helped in the proper upbringing of the children.

Today, the concept has concept of nuclear family is prevalent. The parents are so busy that do not have time for there children and to look what are they doing in their absence.

The parents want their children to be well placed in life and knowingly or unknowingly they are burdening their children with their expectations. This is what is called “parental pressure”.

If we look at the present scenario, the pressure can be classified as

1.External pressure.

2.Internal pressure.

External pressure includes the pressure to establish one’s entity in the society and come up to the top.

Internal pressure includes peer’s pressure and parental pressure.

Our topic is “ Parental Pressure on youngsters “. This pressure includes academic pressure i.e. the pressure of establishment in the society and the pressure to follow the values and ethics.

CAUSES OF THE PROBLEM.

The following are the causes of the parental pressure on we youngsters:

1. Parents expectation:

This is the root cause of parental pressure experienced by the youngsters. It is very often seen that some parents want their child to become what they did not become The parents have framed up the future of their children in their mind and they behave accordingly.

2. Peer Pressure:

Peer pressure also contribute to parents pressure because parents say very often that your friend or classmate is getting 90 % or topping the class and they force their own child to study and get to the top.

3. Lack of proper communication and understanding between the parents and youngsters.

4. For the youngsters it is a confusing state .Their minds are delicate and cannot decide what’s good for them. There is a continuous fear of being blown away with the society because of media and other sources.

If the parents interfere in the child’s matter, the child feels awkward and continuous advices and questioning irritates them .These interferences make the youngsters feel a pressure from the parents side.

5. One of the most important cause is that there is continuous tussle between the values and the present trends related to college life and youth.

The youngsters are struck between the values inculcated in them by their parents and the trends. There is a confusion whether to go with the values or with the trends.

Generally it is seen that the youngsters go with the modern trends which forces them to go off track and crushing the values taught to them. The violation of rules and values forces the parents to put pressure knowingly on unknowingly on the young minds.

PLAN OF ACTION

The burden of unlimited expectation on grooming is found to be one of the basic reason of what we see in today’s world-the distraction , frustration, load of making an excellent career by a child is leading towards what the present scenario demonstrates. The incidences are a real eye-opener. It is high time when one must understand the situation in totality and put actions in behaviour.

The survey conducted reveals very intriguing fact. In some cases, the youngster ‘s issues are neither discussed nor shared by parents keeping them lonely. Apart from this, one more fact came on the surface that every parent wants his/her child to excel in the academics and establish an identity in the society for which they are knowingly or unknowingly imposing their feelings and desires on their children.

Based on the survey, we suggest that youngsters and their parents should discuss and share their problems, activities, academics so that proper guidance can be given.

On the other hand, the parents must understand the limitations, likes and dislikes and ambitions so that a natural guidance can be provided for excellence.

Besides, irrespective of busy schedules, there is a definite need for parents to spend as much time as possible with their children to understand them and shape up their careers.

Why is there a hindrance in solving this problem?

This problem is not coming to an end these days because there are two main hindrances which are responsible for its prevalence.

1. Newspapers and media:

Every day we often hear of suicides, fights over certain issues related to girls and boys in college and the cut off list of universities i.e. the neck to neck competition for establishment of career. This makes the parents advice their young ones continuously.

2. Parent’s Experiences:

Parents are far more experienced than us and know the consequences of many issues related to such relationships. They want us to learn from their experiences.

The problem is that youngsters are not ready to listen to their parents mostly and parents continuously warn or advice them…

SOLUTIONS

The solutions to this problem are as follows:

• The first and the most important solution to this problem is that the parents should spend time with their children.
• The young minds must be told the realities of life instead of just scolding or advising them on such issues.
• The parents should take their children into confidence and tell them their responsibilities.
• Listen to their children-- their feelings, problems and discuss their activities.
• Parents should identify their strengths and weaknesses and discuss it with them so these can be brushed up or overcomed.
• Values should be inculcated in them so that they do not go off the track.
• The youngsters should discuss their problems with parents so that they can be solved.

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